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‘Hell is other people,’ Jean Paul Sartre once said, voicing the great human conflict between our natural selfish selves and our need for social acceptance.

I once had an actor friend who told me the key to his success at castings was in the silences, not the things he said.

As the silent film The Artist scoops up one film award after another and Susan Cain’s book ‘Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a world that just can’t stop talking’ roars up the charts, the word on everyone’s lips is shhhhh.

While the accolades keep running for the The Artist, it’s not the plot which is keeping everyone entranced. It’s the delicious notion of silence.

Arriving in the midst of the most intense period of human activity that the world has ever known, The Artist and Quiet offer us a rare commodity: permission to say nothing.

‘Hell is other people,’ Jean Paul Sartre once wrote, voicing the great human conflict between our natural selfish selves and our need for social acceptance.

In her book Quiet, Susan Cain argues against society’s “omnipresent belief that the ideal self is gregarious, alpha and comfortable in the spotlight” saying that introverts may be happier, smarter and more productive.

After the time taken up by get-togethers, team building days, bonding weekends and quality family time, modern life has whittled down the window of solitary indulgence to 20 minutes on the train before you start work or the rare plane ride without children.

No prizes for guessing why car share has never worked.

Add to that the 68 hours online and 60 hours of television that the average user of those technologies spends per month, and we have a condition far from loneliness.

While Susan Cain’s book Quiet suffers from all sorts of problems, such as her tendency to attribute introverts with grandiose personal qualities of greater empathy and altruism, it’s her her research which challenges the popular stereotype of introverts that counts.

She pulls together a wide range of sources which show that most of the world’s geniuses such as Van Gogh, Newton and Einstein were introverts and that the ‘brainstorming’ work trend which started in the 50s has largely been a failure.

Maybe it’s time for a little reflection. As my actor friend said after a meaningful pause, ‘basically you’ve got to know when to shut the f^%$ up.’

Quiet: The power of introverts in a world that just can’t stop talking by Susan Cain is published by Penguin Books, 2012

Correction: Sartre said ‘hell is other people’ not “hell is other people at breakfast” as was originally reported. Correction thanks to Dan Bloom.

About Carmen Michael

Carmen Michael is an author and a journalist. Her book Chasing Bohemia was published in 2007 by Scribe Publications.

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